6 things to consider before moving an elderly parent into your home

It’s not unusual for families to want – or to feel obliged – to bring their elderly parents into their homes. Caring for them is a way of returning some of the love and nurture you might have received from them over the years.

However, it’s worth bearing in mind that this role reversal can be challenging to come to terms with. While there’ll undoubtedly be emotion involved, it’s important to be realistic about what the arrangement would look like.

To begin with, it’s worth speaking with your parent’s GP about the type of care they’ll need – remembering that this might increase over time. You’ll also need to consider your own schedule and limits, thinking about commitments such as work and children.

For example, it’s important to ask questions like: will you have the time and energy to provide care? Is there anyone else who can share the load? Similarly, if your parent needs help with tasks like washing and dressing, are you happy to do these things?

Once you have a clearer understanding of what to expect, you’ll be better able to decide whether you can reasonably provide the care they need.

If your parent is living with dementia, they might benefit from specialist care. Dementia can be challenging and emotional to live with, so it’s important to ask whether this is something you can take on at home. For more information, you might like to read our article: 6 common challenges when caring for someone with dementia and how to handle them.

Becoming a carer can be challenging and lonely at times, so it’s key to have a good support network in place. For guidance, you might find it helpful to read our articles: 8 ways to look after yourself when caring for a relative and 7 tips for coping with stress and anxiety.